Hello, hello! It’s so nice to see you here. Welcome to my introduction. I just realized I’ve had a blog for years and never made an intro post, so that’s quite odd but here it is now.
This is where you will find information, tips, including setting your boundaries unapologetically, and most importantly my experience as an Ebony virtual sex worker. If you haven’t come across them already and read them, here is a bit of what to expect with my words.
1. I am very transparent. Lately, I hold nothing back. I had finally reached my breaking point of truth. I figured why would or should I hold back and leave the facts out? A lot of companies and people who actually make money off of us, will paint this delusional picture that it’s easy and that’s simply not true. Especially as an Ebony performer. I remember there was a self proclaimed SW “teacher” who was teaching lies and calling it a class. She was charging hundreds of dollars per class. She was aggressive and mean spirited. Almost like a bully. I’ll admit, I sat there thinking to myself, why on earth would she make these people pay her to lie to them? No shade, all tea. I don’t know why, but I was genuinely confused with her demeanor. In the beginning, I tried to sympathize with the fact that she too was an Ebony performer and her demeanor wasn’t anger but rather passion. Like almost trying to rationalize with she’s not angry she just wants to see us win. She too, was one who was painting it out to be so easy and claiming to have the secrets to success in this industry; and the only way to have access to it was through her classes.
After a while of listening to her sales pitch incorporated into her bullying antics, the fear of missing out took over my body and I began to feel bad for not taking her classes. I began to think it was me and I was at fault for not making as much as she said we could make. I thought I was missing something, or doing something wrong. Perhaps I'd missed a step. Was it my aura? Or maybe it was because I wasn’t spending hours upon hours online. Am I not as invested as I probably should be? Am I doing this all wrong? I thought.
Although I was in the game longer than her, what she was advertising just didn’t seem like my personal experience. She flat out claimed to be making thousands of dollars a week. And the kicker is, I started to feel like perhaps I could learn something new from her since she’d been so successful, and so I almost broke my bank to buy one of her classes like a dumbass. My gut instantly stopped me and I said self, trust me. Sit this one out. She’s not saying anything you haven’t already found in a Google search. Come to find out, she was indeed, a fraud. She was busted by one of her students as a scammer. Someone literally left a review saying she’s telling people stuff they can do a Google search for, there’s no trick or different way to make money in this industry. So my intuition was correct. But I still couldn’t figure out why she would lie to folks; and then it dawned on me, she was marketing her services to secure her own bag. Deceiving people wasn’t a concern of hers. That’s marketing 101! I have no idea why I hadn’t thought of that before; I had a career as a marketing rep for crying out loud. Anyway…. onward to point 2!
2. I’m very helpful. To my own detriment some times, I can be too helpful and available; and that at times can allow people to have idea that I owe them my time and knowledge. But here is where I can’t stop being me and I’ll always try to be as helpful as I possibly can. Not always available, but helpful. I’m not the universe, so I may not have all the answers, but I’ll find out, and I’m always open to have a community of my peers come and share their knowledge, experience, and helpful information of their own. Honestly, I’m sick and tired of doing it all on my own.
3. I am very blunt. I’m from NYC; born and raised, so being blunt is already instilled in me from my upbringing. But, being a Leo, Pescatarian makes it worse. I will at times, unintentionally be as blunt as I want to be and not give two flying fucks about it. It’s life and if someone doesn’t want to hear or see the truth, get the fuck up off my blog. Simple.
This truth and journey is not for the weak or the competitive. Readers and listeners should know, I have a private life outside of here, that I intend to keep that way. I have my stage name to build this persona if you will; to keep my work separate from my rather boring life for lack of better words.
Kidding; but when I’m working I do feel more alive, and that’s no lie. While there may be some posts where I’ll touch a bit on my personal life, the overall goal here is to be as authentic as a performer and person as possible. The truth is, adult performers do have a separate life outside of their work and it should be that way. We are entitled to our privacy and our lives, and when we are working; it is just that. Work. Though fun work for some of us, it’s still work. And if you’re anything like me, it’s just work that we actually enjoy doing for once. While all readers and listeners are welcome, this is specifically for Ebony models who are either in the game already and seeking ways to improve, or thinking of getting into this and could use some guidance.
Without going on yet another rant, I want to point out that yes, things are different for us as Ebony models. I’ve experienced it, I’ve witnessed it, and I’m here to express that. Perhaps a bit more, and certainly nothing less. My writing and this blog is not meant to offend others, or discredit the experience of others, so before anyone comes here and tries to compete or make it about them, please do yourself a favor and find someone else to play with. As a Black woman, it is rather insulting to have others try to come and hi-jack our experience in everything we do, creatively and make it about them. Further adding insult to injury by gaslighting and deflecting our experience of lack of appreciation and credit for the hard work we put into our craft. We are not equally compensated and as virtual sex workers, and yet I’ve never heard anyone complain or explain. I’m here to change that and highlight everything…. Let me say that again… everything. And while my intention was never to make this about race, again; I’ve had this blog for many years and I have written about the good, the bad, the ugly, and the indifferent. I’ve revamped my blog several times to help find my purpose in this. I struggled with deciding how much to write about. Should I spill all the tea and leave nothing out, or keep it cute and pretend like everything is berries and cherries? I thought. I couldn’t figure out if I wanted to be 1000% transparent or keep it cute and leave some things out to paint the industry to be truly straight forward with instant high levels of money and success. And then I thought perhaps I should wait until I make it big and lie about my success to the top completely ignoring the hardships it took me to get there. Here we are 14 years later, I’m no closer to the top and I’m still seeing some of my most top performing fellow Ebony PSO and camgirls working for 5 cents. I realized, my silence in all of this is not helping anyone. The truth is, it’s not easy. At all. They’re all lying to you to get you signed up for an emotional rollercoaster. And it’s a weird ass flex, because the average person who doesn’t see success within the first week, is quitting, so in hindsight it’s really not helping the platform or the referral person who signed them up but, okay. The cold hard truth is, this industry is not instantly lucrative and it is emotionally as well as mentally taxing.
Throughout this blog and my career as a virtual sex worker, I’ve always done my best to look at the brighter side and see things beyond the obvious while still inadvertently pointing out the obvious, because somehow the obvious still finds its way to me, thus making me feel compelled to now talk about it. Boy, was that a tongue twister. Whew! Needless to say, now is the time to talk about it and so I will. In accepting the truth as an Ebony creator, perhaps this will help so many other Ebony models succeed in their own way.
Now to the good stuff. I’ve been in the virtual adult industry for 14 years. I started out selling sex toys and quickly moved on to phone sex. All while I was still employed at my 9-5 marketing job. I wanted it all. I’ll admit. I can’t remember for the life of me, which phone sex company I started with outside of Niteflirt. But I do remember taking calls while I was at work. I'd just excused myself and go to the bathroom. Anyway, here’s where it really became a serious thing.
Picture it, 2012 - I was self employed with a vanilla t-shirt business. I’d literally just retired from my 9-5 job as a Marketing Rep for a major media payroll company, to focus on my t-shirt business as it was growing. All of my bills were paid off, I’d funded my t-shirt business with cash from my vanilla job and my phone sex gig, and I had no debt so, I had the opportunity to further invest my time into my business fully. However, things didn’t quite turn out that way. Somehow things shifted, money that was coming in, was just as quickly being spent (not by me) and before I knew it, I needed cash and I needed it faster.
A year after that, I ended up divorced and becoming a webcam model. Since then, I’ve been in the adult industry part time. It paid the bills and bought food when I needed it for my own family. My t-shirt business never recovered, and I needed to go back to the 9-5 life to help make ends meet and pay major bills. But I always stayed in the phone and webcam industry for extra money. I’ve dabbled into recording erotica audio for sale and creating solo content for passive sales. I also offered custom video and audio services. I’ve worked heavily with platforms like Niteflirt, MyFreePhoneSite, TalktoMe, ManyVids, Internetmodeling, MyFreeCams, Extra Lunch Money, LiveJasmin, and IMLive to name a bit more than a few.
Til this day, I still work part time in the industry, while maintaining my own talk site, and further exploring options on other new platforms. As an Ebony model, I do have the desire to be exclusive to a few sites, but earnings for me are limited, so limiting where I earn is equally critical for me. Over time, I’ve learned about exploring different platforms while noting which ones work best for me. It gives me the opportunity to focus on which ones earn me the most, so that I can cut the ones who don’t, and prevent burning myself out by splitting time and energy between one too many. If you’ve made it through this post thus far, you’ve probably already guessed my overall goal in producing this material. It’s to shed light on the industry authentically and educate anyone thinking of doing this. This isn’t to deter anyone from doing it. It’s to better prepare, so that success is achieved in the timeframe meant to be while maintaining a healthy lifestyle in its full form. So I hope you enjoy learning more about my journey while ultimately creating yours. Cheers to success! Now… .let’s get this fuckin party started, shall we?

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